I used to be resistant to the idea of being in a long-term, committed, and deep relationship. Why? Basically, my old mindset convinced me if I was in a relationship it would deter and distract me from accomplishing my goals and dreams. Now, however, I realize balancing the intimate relationships that come with life are … Continue reading How I Balance Relationships and Goal Getting
First of all, I'm pretty sure I have the best man in the world. His love is so inspirational. I don't know how the rest of the world lives without him. Sucks for ya, because you can't have him. He's mine, but that's neither here nor there. What makes our relationship great, however, is the … Continue reading Stove Top Mac or Oven Mac ?
However, if there are old habits in play that discourages bloom and growth, the bomb whatever you please will be very short lived. And its a shame, because you--I--we deserve to bloom all year long.
We have "instantcheckmate.com", truthfinder.com, backgroundcheck.com etc. etc. We have our faithful group of homegirls who could moonlight as private investigators because all you have to do is mention bruh name, and they will identify a minimum of three of his last girlfriends, his occupation, income, frat, previous GPA, credit score, and damn near his social security number in less than two hours. We ourselves have all of those good ole social media sites to investigate the quality of potential partners. But, we do not have any application that will help us evaluate the spiritual quality of potential mates. No. No. We have to learn to run those spiritual background checks ourselves before embarking on serious partnerships.
Us, young fly free millennial Black folk see a need for healing in a way our parents and grand parents may not understand. The way I see it; in addition to being the products of triumphant, resilient, ambitions, hard-working, out-going, intelligent, and gorgeous brown people, we are also the products of generations of negative mental, physical, and sometimes spiritual abuse and habits that must be broken for the sake of posterity. I recognize the cyclical nature in my own family, and I intend to create a new ebb and flow. And, I will do so, even if it means going against the grain and seeking therapeutic counseling. The church is just not enough for me any more.